A Simple Way to Clean House

A Simple Way to Clean House

In order to follow this simple system, you will need to do battle with your perfectionism. You will have to give up the notion of “doing it right”, and just do it. When it has to be perfect and sterilized and magazine ready, that adds a lot of pressure to the mix, and most people put things off until they can be done “correctly”. Then you get deferred maintenance, and the mess gets bigger and bigger, and scarier and scarier and it causes a lot...

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Dating When You’ve Lived and Learned

Dating When You’ve Lived and Learned

If you are a woman in her 40’s and older, I want to share a few things with you that may help get your next relationship off to a great start. First of all, let yourself have the necessary time to heal from and process through your last relationship. If it ended badly, allow yourself to process through all of that so the next man in your life is not asked to make up for what the last man did. You need to be ready to meet someone knowing who you...

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How to Find Relief From Stress and Anxiety

How to Find Relief From Stress and Anxiety

We all live in an age of stress and anxiety. There are many things that contribute to this problem, such as rampant perfectionism, how we use technology, and unrealistic expectations. The good news is there are also a number of things that can be used to turn down the volume of our stress and anxiety. Inner Critic Let’s start with our thoughts. Often, a harsh inner critic and a constant striving for perfection and achievement will contribute to...

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How Do You Know When it’s Time to Go to a Marriage Counselor?

How Do You Know When it’s Time to Go to a Marriage Counselor?

Just about every couple could benefit from seeing a marriage counselor at some point in their marriage. Timing is an important consideration. Don’t wait until your marriage is almost dead before you see a marriage counselor! Make an appointment when you “hit a snag”. What I mean by that is that when you and your partner have an issue that isn’t resolving and is in fact growing more troublesome, or could grow more troublesome if it isn’t...

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Marriage is Not One Long First Date!

Marriage is Not One Long First Date!

As a society, I think we are very confused about what we are doing with our permanent relationships. We have more knowledge available to us than ever before, but we seem to have lost a corresponding amount of wisdom! People used to know that sometime during the first part of marriage the “honeymoon would be over”, and the couple would have to then begin adjusting themselves to the long, arduous, difficult situation that is marriage. The process...

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Do a 180 and Save Your Marriage!

Do a 180 and Save Your Marriage!

If you are worried that your marriage is headed south, do a 180 and find your True North again. Don’t worry about getting your spouse on board – you can do this all by yourself. This is a strategy Michele Weiner-Davis talks about in her Divorce-Busting series, and it really works. Perhaps your spouse is threatening to file for divorce, or maybe (s)he has already left. Take a deep breath, calm down and get ready to turn your marriage around....

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